I AM the Boss of You
It’s all about employability. Maybe not all about employability, but it’s a lot about employability. I don’t see Cameron as someone who will be a degree-seeking candidate in a postsecondary setting. If, however, that were to become a consideration, the decisions to pursue a degree would be made by carefully weighing the options. What will best further his employment opportunities, and how to best develop job skills? It may well be that those decisions are three to five years ahead of us, but developing employable skills starts now. Or sooner.
So what will the most difficult obstacles be when Cameron is looking to join the workforce? Will it be his academic challenges, his verbal inefficiencies, or his social awkwardness? Or, as I suspect, a combination of all of the above? Or maybe it’s something else I haven’t even thought of yet.
So as I said above, it’s (pretty much) all about employability, and it starts now. I am the domestic boss, and here’s how it’s going to go: No more whining, arguing, or grumbling about assigned tasks. Cameron has his chores around the house and in exchange for doing these chores he gets a certain monthly allowance (income). It sucks for Cameron that a mild winter has brought on grass mowing sooner than usual, but a reminder that the grass isn’t getting any shorter should not be met with “Fine!” I’m the boss, remember? I deserve a little respect. Maybe not to the point of snapping his heels together and answering, “Sir! Yes Sir!”, but a degree of respect and appreciation for my authority would be well received. (And hey, put a smile on that face, and come review time, I might consider a raise.)
I really think there’s an opportunity here for Cameron to practice the behavior he should be exhibiting at the workplace. I may be in the habit of ignoring Cameron’s grumbling and terse replies, but I don’t think an employer will be as understanding as dear ol’ Mom. If I can get Cameron to respond in an appropriate manner to his domestic bosses, it’s likely going to result in a most splendid relationship with his managers in the workplace. Hey! I may be on to something … I should let his academic bosses in on what I’m after here. Arguing, excuse making, and feigned helplessness are not in Cameron’s best interest. If he has a legitimate problem or concern, he needs to utilize those self-advocacy skills he’s developing per his IEP to appropriately address the issue.
Here’s a call to bosses everywhere, whether domestic, academic, or otherwise: Rise up against bad attitudes. Exert your authority and let it be known that a happy employee makes a happy boss. And everyone wants a happy boss, because everyone wants to be a happy employee. With all this contagious happiness, the world will be a much brighter place. Namaste, kumbaya, and peace out.